Man Whisperers

The conventional tell tale signs of the player are well known. He's the one with great game. The one with the legendary one night stands. He's got a nice car, nice clothes, great smile – maybe even a nice house – and he has his friends around all of the time so that he can show his skills to his boys. Although this guy is a player, it's not him that causes damage and breaks hearts, because at the end of the day if this guy plays you, it's because you wanted to get played. And let's face it, we all want to be played at some point in our lives.

The player to keep an eye out for is the insidious lesser known version. He's the one that no one ever talks about. He's the guy who broke your best friend's heart last week when she found out he was married with a kid on the way. This is the guy you need to spend some time trying to find, because if he finds you unaware and unprepared you may find yourself licking your wounds for months to come.

Ultimately, this is the guy who is willing to take more than he is willing to give – and what he gives costs a lot less than what he's willing to take. This player may have some of the same attributes as the conventional player, but his game is different. His game is all about him and you're only there to make him feel better about himself.

So, what should you be looking for so you don't get snared by this player? When you start dating does he immediately start having trouble giving you space, do bouts of jealousy start appearing for no apparent reason, and do you feel from time to time that you need to file a missing persons report to find him? If the answer is yes, then be aware. As soon as you start falling for this guy, he's working on his exit strategy. Unfortunately for you he's not worried about whether or not you're going to get hurt.

-by OMAR, Our Denver Based Male Guest Writer

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