We sent out a text survey to find out how guys & girls define players. The guy’s responses are very surprising – and refreshingly insightful. Each one gave us a unique perspective on how a player can manipulate to get what they want.
Men’s Responses
MW: What is your definition of a player?
Man 1: Someone that is opposed to completely monogamous relationships and seeks to explore their sexuality with many different people, often times simply for the sport of it.
MW: What are the warning signs of a player?
M1: A good player or a bad player? You can be a player but not get much play…there’s a difference between the two and they behave differently.
MW: What are some examples of both?
M1: Good ones are good with words. They’ll turn the situation around so the girl is chasing him…bad players do the chasing. Bad ones always on the prowl…not talking to friends but always looking around the room for the next target. Good ones create an environment around them that make them appear fun to be around. They can tell great stories and jokes….often the same ones reused…canned material. Bad or inexperience players talk about how pretty and smart his target is….good ones will say things to make the girl feel insecure. The girl will then work to prove her value.
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MW: What is your definition of a player?
Man 2: I think a player is someone who enters into some sort of relationship understanding that the other person has a different sort of expectations and takes advantage of the situation.
MW: What are the warning signs of a player?
M2: Someone who drags their feet. And only does what they want to do in a relationship. An avoidance of couple situations especially in public. An unwillingness to be communicative. But I think if you really are out there trying to meet someone a player may be impossible to truly spot that’s the difficult things about relationships. You have to trust someone who may not have earned it at first.
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MW: What are the warning signs of a player?
Man 3: Some of this is counter intuitive but here are some things to consider for sure:
- He falls hard fast
- Asks too many questions about what you want
- Too many friends of the opposite sex
- He starts talking sex right away
- This is simple, but you always catch him lying
- Gets jealous too soon
MW: Why would a player care enough to be jealous?
M3: It’s not about love or caring, it’s a control thing.
MW: Who wants to be in control of their one night stand? Which is what players have a lot of…
M3: See I think that’s not always true. I think they also go back to the same girl many times and it’s about them not caring about hurting someone when they’re done. I have friends that have multiple girls going and they don’t give a shit, but they aren’t running one night stands. They like to have multiple choices available to them at all times.
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MW: How do you spot a player?
Man 4: A player tends to shower once a day
Women’s Responses:
MW: What are the warning signs of a player?
Woman 1: They are constantly deleting old text messages, they take better care of their shoes than you do, they don’t take you out, they just want to hang out at your house, and they never invite you to hang with their friends.
Woman 2: Cocky smirk? Really forward and smooth — flirting? Dresses better than you?
Woman 3: Gold teeth? Jk i guess the super charming guys are always playa playas.
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