Man Whisperers

By Bodey Watson

In light of this generation's lack of being educated on morality, how can we expect them to know even the basics? They grew up watching their parents cheat, divorce, and shack up with new partners. Then the parents, to their shame, and not wanting to be hypocritical, did not teach their children.

In an effort to stop the downward spiral, I would respectfully like to educate.

I have been married for over 30 years to the same man. I still love him. Even more than when we were married. I know fidelity. Before we were married we were both promiscuous. I know infidelity.

My 10-year-old grandson was in the car with me when he saw a billboard that prompted this question, “Gammy, what are STDs?” I responded with the truth, “Sexually transmitted diseases.” I continued to explain, “When people have sex with different people they can pass on certain viruses that can be very serious. That is one reason you should only have sex with the person you are married to.”

He is just old enough to know the mechanics of sex, but finds it very uncomfortable to discuss. But asks me questions because he knows I'll be honest. And I'll be honest with you. I look at this way:

• Healthy sexual relations with your spouse means you come to know each other
• No fear of disease
• No fear of babies being raised without two committed parents
• No fear of being used and discarded
• You grow old together

Our increasing awareness of what is wrong in our lives points us back to the saying, “There is nothing new under the sun.” The relationship rules that were put in place thousands of years ago were to protect us. Why are we trying to build another wheel? In our desperation to find the right person, we sacrifice what we know in our hearts is true.

I want to say again, I know infidelity. I understand what goes on when decisions are made and the consequences that are paid. I have compassion for those who are hurting or have questions about relationships. I am compelled to speak out and offer my experiences, my years of happiness along with my 20/20 vision from the past and seeing in living color what I could not see when I was in the midst of anguish and heartache.

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