October 31st, 2009
the break-up and make-up
This type of toxic relationship starts off as a whirlwind. You meet, date a few times, and the next thing you know you just can’t get enough. Late night talks, sex, and constantly hanging out together. Then the most unfathomable thing happens, you start to constantly fight over ever little thing possible. You question yourself and ask what you did to deserve this treatment. The fights turn ridiculous and you break up only to make up. Everyone knows just how fabulous make up sex is!! Once you break up it only lasts a moment until you realize you can’t live without the person.
Breaking up and making up is the premise of this type of toxic relationship. Even though you’re a strong person you can’t seem to break the spell. And for some reason you can’t grasp the idea that there is someone out there far more suitable for you and your needs.
The cause of these on and off relationships tends to be a number of any of the following factors:
- Immaturity
- Timing
- Incompatibility
- Losing yourself
- Imbalance
- Uncertainty
Sometimes no matter how hard it is you have to face the fact that it is nearly impossible to get along with someone, even if you have great sexual chemistry. However, in a healthy relationship you have to accept the good and the bad. If you’re not willing to accept it all there will be a lot of clashing. Also, these on and off relationships have many red flags to watch for like not looking at the obvious signs of incompatibility or different values. Uncertainty plays a key role in breaking up and getting back together. It’s hard. You really love and care for someone but you don’t know if it’s right. You’ll break up but then miss them so much you want them back. It’s selfish but simply a human instinct.
Most people at some point in their lives have had this toxic relationship. And in the end when you leave it behind and find happiness on your own you can finally smile without a doubt in your mind.
