The discovery of inadequate boyfriend material is totally depressing and you feel utterly betrayed by the adults who told you, “Oh just wait until college to meet your dream guy.” Boy were they wrong, the TRUTH is that the typical college guy is much harder to date than the high-school guys we grew up with.  Seriously, did something happen between graduation day and their first day of college?   It seems like all of a sudden they are either stage-5 clingers or emotionally unavailable (aka TOXIC). And upon further reflection, it’s almost absurd that they now see themselves as masters of their domain when they still can’t even do their own laundry.

Girls go to college hoping to meet the man of their dreams and guys go to college hoping to get laid.  Don’t be THAT girl!   The next thing you know you’ll be on your back, staring at the ceiling in some dirty guy’s apartment. Where do you think the “Walk of Shame” came from?  Not a pretty picture.

College is a time to make great friends of both sexes.  It’s a time to discover who you are, what you really want to be, what your values are, and how to win a dance-off when you’re dressed up like a clown. Appreciate your girlfriends and focus on developing life-long friendships.  Be the girl who’s confidence and security (while being single) makes even the hottest, most unattainable guys want to know who you are.  Then maybe they’ll realize they have to give up their issues in order to impress you.

7 reasons why relationships are overrated in college

1. During your college years you meet more people than any other time of your life.  Why miss out on all the great times for an average dinner, an average guy, and probably less than average sex?

2. Do you really want to spend your time training a guy when you’re still trying to figure out who you are?

3. It’s a small world, and college campuses are the tiniest places on earth. Picture running into the last person you want to see – day after day.

4. Girls nights and crazy dance parties…PRICELESS.

5. College is a time to explore, be free, and be spontaneous.

6. After all, flirting couldn’t be more fun, harmless, carefree, and satisfying!

7. Who wants to deal with a cheating guy and potential embarrassment when you’re just struggling to get through Physics?

The player to keep an eye out for is the insidious lesser known version. He's the one that no one ever talks about. He's the guy who broke your best friend's heart last week when she found out he was married with a kid on the way. This is the guy you need to spend some time trying to find, because if he finds you unaware and unprepared you may find yourself licking your wounds for months to come.

Ultimately, this is the guy who is willing to take more than he is willing to give – and what he gives costs a lot less than what he's willing to take. This player may have some of the same attributes as the conventional player, but his game is different. His game is all about him and you're only there to make him feel better about himself.

So, what should you be looking for so you don't get snared by this player? When you start dating does he immediately start having trouble giving you space, do bouts of jealousy start appearing for no apparent reason, and do you feel from time to time that you need to file a missing persons report to find him? If the answer is yes, then be aware. As soon as you start falling for this guy, he's working on his exit strategy. Unfortunately for you he's not worried about whether or not you're going to get hurt.

-by OMAR, Our Denver Based Male Guest Writer