Girls, c’mon, you know he’s an asshole. He doesn’t call, he breaks dates (when he actually makes them), his boys come first and he lets you know it. You complain about him to your girlfriends all the time. Hell, you might even fight about it with him, but you keep coming back for more. Of course you like this guy, he’s dangerous, edgy, and shady, all those words that your parents told you to stay away from. Let me fill you in on something, we know that’s what you are looking for…some way to piss off daddy. Hey, maybe you can change him, but how are you going to do that when you reward him with the delicates for treating you like a doormat. Men are dogs, take it from Pavlov, withhold the meat, and give him the bells and whistles.

You think you can counteract it by acting like an asshole yourself. You stop giving him attention; you act like you don’t care about what he does. How does the asshole counter this? He makes sure you see him with another girl, then all that goes out the door, cause now some 76 pound ugly bitch is stepping on your territory even though you were ready to let it go to the rebels. Next thing you know you’re staring at the ceiling of some apartment with your ankles around your ears. Maybe you will get some breakfast in the morning but more than likely you’ll get a great walk of shame and another story to complain to your girlfriends about. In the end the asshole is cool and collected, he never worries, and he says things just off color enough to make your mouth open wide. At that point the hook is set, and you are his catch!

-Male Guest Blogger

Prevalent signs of the 'Dr. Mentality'

• Busy/Constantly on the go
• Has a bucket list that does not include you
• Closed off emotions
• Thinks love is governed by a set of rules
• Not a true romantic
• Egotistical
• Is in medical school
• People pleaser
• Emotionally immature
• Treats girlfriend like a “good-for-now” girl

Some guys can and will grow out of the Dr. Mentality and become great lovers. Also, some women enjoy being with Dr. Mentality because then they can always have their emotional space and keep their life separated. This is also known as “marrying for money” or “giving up on love”.

The men that drive us CRAZY… Here are some obvious signs that your man is TOXIC:

1. You sleep with a guy too quickly. If the guy is toxic you are doomed to hours of stressing. There’s a low risk factor if you let loose with a dork in a ninja suit. But beware if the guy is in your league or above – or you at least think that he is.

2. When you spend an excessive amount of time with the guy. Seeing someone on a regular basis only increases your feelings for them, even if you were never that into them in the first place.

3. SPACE. A toxic guy knows to give you your space, and may even intentionally give you too much space for your comfort. This means he’s unavailable a lot of the time and tends to only make the late night booty call. Booty calls can be great, but NOT when your man is toxic.

4. Rejection. When a guy rejects you and he is toxic it only makes you want him more. This can turn into an emotionally dangerous situation where you will do anything to keep his attention. Honestly, you never had his attention.

5. You think the connection is strong and chemistry is great. On the girl’s side she is thinking she has this amazing guy and will not be able to find such a connection with anyone else. A toxic guy can make you think that you click, when it doesn’t mean a THING to him.

6. Out of sight out of mind. Your toxic will treat you as if he doesn’t care if you are there or not. He will not really want to see you, simply wants to see you under circumstances when you throw yourself at him or he’s horny. Toxic will tell you things that make you think he is so into you but once you’re out of sight these promises will not come true. Your toxic constantly let’s you down.

The player to keep an eye out for is the insidious lesser known version. He's the one that no one ever talks about. He's the guy who broke your best friend's heart last week when she found out he was married with a kid on the way. This is the guy you need to spend some time trying to find, because if he finds you unaware and unprepared you may find yourself licking your wounds for months to come.

Ultimately, this is the guy who is willing to take more than he is willing to give – and what he gives costs a lot less than what he's willing to take. This player may have some of the same attributes as the conventional player, but his game is different. His game is all about him and you're only there to make him feel better about himself.

So, what should you be looking for so you don't get snared by this player? When you start dating does he immediately start having trouble giving you space, do bouts of jealousy start appearing for no apparent reason, and do you feel from time to time that you need to file a missing persons report to find him? If the answer is yes, then be aware. As soon as you start falling for this guy, he's working on his exit strategy. Unfortunately for you he's not worried about whether or not you're going to get hurt.

-by OMAR, Our Denver Based Male Guest Writer